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Julie Fingersh's avatar

But of course! I’m honored. And Shana Tova right back♥️

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Julie Fingersh's avatar

I think it might be in the genes! xo

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Lisa Levin's avatar

Thank you Julie, I loved this. I love everything you write. I could read you every day. You always have something so important to say. Shana Tova!

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Julie Fingersh's avatar

Lisa your words always mean so much to me. I hope you know that♥️

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Sally McQuillen's avatar

Let the children keep reminding us

Let the sick and dying remind us

The trees and sun and seasons and wind remind us

Help us to leverage everything we have to give

only for what matters in the end♥️

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Ricki Henschel's avatar

Shana Tova U'metukah.

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Mark Shemaria's avatar

I hear this so loudly and clearly.

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Ruthie Urman's avatar

Thank you for sharing, and I do intend to read the whole essay, however even just the beginning where you say, the people who play have nothing to show for it I would like to differ with you and say that they have even more to show for it with their happiness and inner joy.

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Julie Fingersh's avatar

and I hope that you will see after you read it that that is just what I am saying! I want to be much more like those people because inner joy ... ? what could be more amazing than that on a regular basis?

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Ruthie Urman's avatar

Yes, and I am also embracing being happy no matter what; it is changing my whole perception and outlook on life.

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Ruthie Urman's avatar

And I keep forgetting to tell you that I love your sense of humah!

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Ruthie Urman's avatar

Oh my gosh, Julie I feel like you’ve sprung open a waterfall here! I deliberately love to cook, healthy meals, and devour them with such joy. I take time when friends call, to listen to them and to share my wisdom. I make time for neighbors, for friends and of course always for family.

You might want to read my latest posting on LinkedIn call timelessness; it relates to this conversation.

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Julie Fingersh's avatar

Absolutely I will!! Ty!

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Nancy Barnett's avatar

You're amazing, I love your writings!

This article reminded me of my favorite saying/philosophy.....

Dolce far niente is an Italian phrase that translates to "the sweetness of doing nothing". It's a philosophy and lifestyle that involves being in a state of complete idleness or blissful relaxation. Some examples of dolce far niente include:

Having coffee with a friend

Watching the waves at the beach

Sitting on a park bench and watching people go by

Some say that dolce far niente is not about being lazy, but rather the pleasure of being idle.

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Ruthie Urman's avatar

And the saweeet process of writing...becoming lost in time...swept away by enchanting words...I could sit at my kitchen counter forever, writing, writing, reading posts and writing.

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Ruthie Urman's avatar

I’d like to add Julie that I was brought up with a similar philosophy as my mother would say that I won’t be happy unless I am working. Later years, she seemed to change that when she was older and had less energy (she passed away at 99). So I do feel daily the push to be successful in various things and yet with my energy that seems to be lapsing a bit, I know I want to slow down because on my death bed I won’t give a fuck how many plants HOA demanded I plant in my backyard, as much as being connected to my small family with my daughter, my son-in-law and my two grand boys because I know that’s what’s important.

These life lessons can feel so intense and yet when we break free of them, everything changes: our bodies, our minds and most definitely our lives.

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Julie Fingersh's avatar

you are very wise, Ruthie. You could not be more right. I want to hold this thought especially: These life lessons can feel so intense and yet when we break free of them, everything changes: our bodies, our minds and most definitely our lives.

I also see this with my 93 year old father - he seems finally to be able to just enjoy being, the simpler things - I just want to figure that out much, much sooner. thanks so much for sharing this. Your family is lucky to have you

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Ruthie Urman's avatar

Thank you for your kind, sweet and heartfelt words. I embrace them.

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Ruthie Urman's avatar

I hope it’s OK. I mentioned your name in a new piece I am writing for LinkedIn.

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Ruthie Urman's avatar

Happy New Year to you, Julie!

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